I remember this day this photo captured like it was yesterday. Yes, this was my love bug’s first birthday party. But this day reflected an equally great achievement
DAD AND I HAVE SURVIVED YEAR ONE!
We had made it through with her being a happy, healthy baby girl with all her parts still intact 😂 Looking at this photo, you probably wouldn’t have known I was BARELY holding it all together.
I was literally late to my child’s birthday with having to get last minute things my LATE sister was expected to bring. She did but I was a panicing nut case running around trying to do EVERYTHING.
I was still putting up decorations while dad was trying to operate a grill he had NO idea how to get started. My sister finally made it with the stuff we needed (we had duplicate decorations; all of it was returned the next day 😒) and jumped right in to help. People started showing up and I was a COMPLETELY mess inside and out. I needed to shower and my hair was as wild as ever.
Luckly, God Mom made it with the cake and cupcakes moments after and I was able to whosa for 10 whole minutes! Even in our small cozy 2 bedroom apartment, we had a ball of a birthday. Everyone came and showed our Journi some love and made me forget about all the reality that we faced after they were gone.
We made it through but boy it was a struggle for the both of us. We were blessed with a happy girl but we were having trouble keeping things together at times like any parent with a newborn.
somedays we didn’t know our left’s from our right and wouldn’t see eye to eye about decisions.
Somedays were better than the next and it put a lot of tension between us. With him already having a child, he felt he knew more than me when it came to certain things. “I basically helped RAISE my nieces and nephew, Manny I know what I am talking about. ” NEITHER of us had a real clue how parenting 24/7 really was.
Just the night before her party, we had a disagreement that left us not talking the rest of the night… But we had to swallow our prides, let it go and smile through for the sake of our daughter.
At the end of the night, babygirl was bathed and put to bed. After cleaning up the day’s fun, we sit. And something strange happened that I will NEVER forget. We just LAUGHED. We laughed for a good 2 minutes. The crazy party was we said nothing we just… Laughted.
After talking, we realized how petty and small our fight was. We were to blessed and we let a stupid disagreement divide us. Look at how blessed we were and what we have made it through.
We went through some of the worst times and have been dragged through the mud by people who just wanted to “help” us get on our feet. Every single time, God pulled is through and blessed us two times over. We worked hard and remained humble even as the blessing flowed. That was the we vowed to NEVER allow that to happen again.
Yeah, we fall short but we have learned to check ourselves and when we are wrong to correct ourselves. We were damn good parents we just needed to be confident in that. Once we became confident, we began to flourish.
Mommyhood is not a easy job. You are STILL very emotional and scattered sometime after (lasted a year and a half AFTER I had Journi), you still have doubts if you are doing things right, you have sleepless night watching your baby and continuously checking of they are breathing 🙄, you have moments where eyou feel like a failure and just need to cry it out.
You have these hard times but you also have those wonderful moments.
You get to watch you child grown right before your eyes, you are there for all their milestones, you see there smile and hear their laughter, all the sweet hugs and kissed they are so generous to give especially when you feel like you aren’t doing your best. She always makes me feel like the best mother alive.
Motherhood is full of pure beauty and full of memories I’m blessed to look back on.
There are good time, worst times, and better times. I wouldn’t choose my life to have gone any other way. Seeing jer smile is a blessing in itself. And knowing what I know now, anything we face we will prevail, I know that for a fact.